Rand you are correct...if we loose all of the time, we give up, that's just human nature.
Biff tells a story at the conferences about his Uncle Marvin and how he used to take food to the farmers market by donkey. Well you see, the only way to get that donkey to move was to put an apple on a string and stick and put it out in front of the donkey. So, Uncle Marvin let a young Biff try it one time and Biff let it out just in front of the donkey and he ate it all up and only pulled the cart 10 feet. Well, Uncle Marvin asked what happened and the young Biff said it was too close to the donkey's mouth. So Biff tried it again and put it out too far. Now the donkey tried for about two seconds and sat down. He gave up...why? He knew he wasn't going to get that apple so he didn't even try.
Our kids are a lot like both of these scenarios...we need to move that apple back and forth; a little out in front and let the donkey nibble, then put it out a little farther, and then in...out...in...out...and so on. Once young Biff tried this he was on his way to the farmers market.
It's that way with our kids too. As mentioned above in an earlier post you need to "Ping-Pong" them back and forth. If they are not doing well...low energy, not following directions, etc find some small glimmer of hope that you can cling to and reward them for it. Announce it out loud..."Wow, I really like the way Sarah is using gestures", (mark on the smiley) "Cheer!". Two seconds later tell them that you noticed this half of the room cheering really well (mark on the smiley) "Cheer!". Instantly, you notice that two kids didn't cheer all of the way...(mark on the sad face) "Groan!". Do this routine back and forth every 10 minutes or so and they'll be back in your palm in no time.
Rand...you've got to get that "food" to the market!
Power to the Teacher!